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Life has changed, and that’s okay!


My daughter and I

“Enjoy going out now!”

“You’ll miss sleeping in!”

“See you in 18 years!”

Being a mother has changed me. Gone are the days where I could stay up late binge-watching Netflix, or going to a late night movie with my husband. Doing laundry once a week doesn’t work anymore. Making sure the house is spotless and the sink is empty just isn’t as high on my priority list.

Do I miss those things? Sure. Would I trade being a mother for any of them? Not in a million years.

I now completely understand why my best friend, Erin, couldn’t hang out as much as we used to. She got married at 18, and became a mother for the first time when we were 20! She now has 3 little ones, foster kids, and is in the process of adopting.

I have one 9 month old girl, and I’m lucky to get a shower every day!

My husband and I continually remind ourselves that this is just a season. Our baby won’t be little forever. If I have to miss late night fondue, happy hour with my girlfriends, or the new Divergent movie, that’s okay.

My true friends know my heart, and that I am there for them when they need me. Having a girls’ night is definitely a must, even if they don’t happen as often as they used to. Texting helps me stay connected, even if I end up responding two days later.

Daily I remind myself that my little girl is growing up. While I might not do all of the things I used to, I know that I’m exactly where I need to be.

“Your greatest contribution to the kingdom of God may not be something you do but someone you raise.”
– Andy Stanley


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3 Responses to Life has changed, and that’s okay!

  1. Angela April 19, 2016 at 9:32 am #

    I just wanted to say thank you for this message! I am currently 22 weeks with my first child that my husband and I worked very hard for! WE are super excited but I have to say the amount of negative comments such as…”You’ll never sleep again” or my favorite ” Life as you know it is over”, not only hurts my feelings but has us thinking sometimes like…what the he’ll are we getting I into??? Having a child has been a priority in my life since I was a child myself. I have seen all my friends and many family members experience this blessing in their lives and even after all we’ he been through…no one really reminds us of the wonderful things ahead. Its just nice to hear a new mom recognize that Yes, life has changed but for the better. So thank you and blessings to you and your family!

    • Ruzella
      Ruzella April 19, 2016 at 7:43 pm #

      Hi Angela,
      I’m so glad my post was able to help! Being a new mom definitely isn’t easy, but it is so amazing! Enjoy your little blessing when they get here, they grow so fast! My girl is 9 months old now, and I still can’t believe how much she’s grown!

      All the best!

  2. Brittany
    Brittany April 20, 2016 at 1:02 am #

    I love this and live by it. We definitely have to enjoy it now. 🙂