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A gay mom’s wish list

A lot of people have asked me how we celebrate Mothers’ Day in our two-mom family. Who gets who a card? Who sleeps in and who makes breakfast? Over the past two years, our roles and experiences of motherhood have evolved and become incredibly different and perfectly complementary.

I don’t know what it’s like to have two moms. And my son, who’s 2, can’t exactly articulate his thoughts on the subject yet. In my mind, it’s similar to having a birthday that happens to fall on Christmas. You do your best to honor both milestones, but maybe at the end of the day everyone feels a little shortchanged. My wife and I don’t typically don’t get each other things on holidays; it’s more often a need- or want-driven exchange. But this year, when she asked me if I wanted anything for Mothers’ Day, I decided to make a list. It’s admittedly a bit lofty, but a person’s gotta dream, right?

My Mothers’ Day Wish List

  • Autocorrect that doesn’t think Mothers’ Day is incorrectly punctuated
  • For just one person who isn’t related to me to know that my son calls me “mum” and my wife “mama”
  • To never again be asked “Is he yours?” or “Which one of you is the mom?”
  • Automatic legal recognition of my spouse’s parentage (without having to go through a second parent adoption, which includes a home study)
  • Never having to ask a daycare or preschool how they will talk to my child about his family
  • More than one option in the greeting card aisle
  • Breakfast in bed

In all honesty, I love being able to share the day with my wife. She’s our little family’s rock, the glue that holds us together, and literally the only person in the world who can get our kid to go to sleep.

Happy Mothers’ Day to us both.

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2 Responses to A gay mom’s wish list

  1. Anna Brockenbrough May 14, 2017 at 8:22 am #

    Happy Mothers’ Day to both of you! Enjoying your blog posts. Sounds like you and Haley bring so much to the table in regards to your parenting. I appreciate all of your sage wisdom as I prepare to have my little kiddo. Miss you!

  2. Tim Warden May 14, 2017 at 10:50 am #

    Happy Mother’s Day to two great moms!
    Love You , Poppa