Today is my fourth wedding anniversary.
As I sit here and reflect on these past four years, I remember losing loved ones, becoming parents, buying our first home, and starting new jobs.
The road hasn’t always been easy, but it’s been worth it.
I don’t know what I did to deserve you, but like the saying goes;
“Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairytale.”
I am not an expert on marriage and four years is minimal compared to other marriages, but I believe we have a solid foundation to make ours last a lifetime.
Communication – We talk a lot! We talk about our work days, our son, what funny things we read on Facebook, add in some adult humor and there you have our daily conversations. We also talk about the hard stuff like finances, doctor appointments, life, death and everything in between. No subject is off limits. We express ourselves open and honestly. Yes, we argue and we frustrate each other because sometimes we don’t fall on the same page. But even, when we don’t understand each other, we try to. Trying is better than winning.
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff – My husband rarely wears his wedding ring. Okay, some people may argue this is a big thing. Honestly, it doesn’t really bother me. I am very secure in our marriage and I don’t feel like he has to wear his ring to prove something to me, family and friends, or even society. We actually joke about him being married for the day when he does wear it! Don’t let a ring define your relationship.
Don’t Play Into Gender Roles – A woman should not be defined as a homemaker just as much as a man should not feel obligated to provide financially. My husbands cooks way more than I like to admit. He cooks because he’s better at it. I do the laundry because it’s his least favorite chore. We both work full time so splitting up household chores is a must. We are a team especially when it comes to our son. Just because he is a man and has a job does not mean he can slack off at home.
Be Perfectly Imperfect – Our marriage is far from what people may picture as perfect. We know what makes each other tick, goofy quirks, good and bad habits. He knows I get hangry when I don’t eat and I know he hates clutter. I am not a morning person and he can’t eat breakfast past 9am. He is the calm to my crazy. We balance each other perfectly. We may be imperfect individuals, but we are perfect together.
Live By Your Own Rules – The great thing about our life is nobody else lives it. We are content doing our own thing. We don’t play by the rules and don’t follow the stigma of society. We are living our life based on our happiness. Our happiness just happens to be a little boy who calls us Mommy and Daddy.
Marriage is the fairytale you want it to be.
My fairytale just happens to be living in a nice house, on a quiet street, hanging out in comfy clothes, with the two best boys in the world.
Happy Anniversary, Angelo. I love you.